Talk about work on this post, and I rarely seem to mention Capoeira, which is a large part of my life outside of work, and the place where I was lucky enough to meet Mum Mum. I don’t speak about work because I tend to feel that speaking about difficulties, hassles or general crap at work, I feel it is unprofessional to air it in such a public forum. The reason I don’t tend to talk about capoeira is different. We go to class, train, either well or not, and leave having normally had an extremely good workout.
Tonight was different. Sure we had a good workout, and class was actually going really well. If you don’t know about Capoeira, it is a Brazilian martial art that is played (and it is a game between two people) in a roda, or circle. The circle is made up of participants who are playing instruments, clapping, and singing, and who form the nucleus of the players for the game.
Our instructor, or Mestre, went to pains to tell us to play a good game, and that means to repect each other, give each other space, and not to do anything stupid. After a couple of games I started to play with someone, lets call him Sir Dipshit. So Dip started the game very fast and very aggressively, really trying to push me around in the game. I am happy to play that kind of game, with the right person, but was making sure that I was in control of everything I did. He then proceeded to shove me, two-handed, trying to push me out of the roda. This is neither a standard technique in the game, nor is it a way to play nicely. The thing is… if he wanted to push me, then I was happy and ready to push back. Unfortunately, as soon as he did that, someone tried to buy the game, so as to take Dipshit out, leaving me to play with the new person. I pushed that person back and tried to pull Dipshit back into the game, but he was too much of a coward to come and play again.
That left me in a very bad mood, and to make things worse, our Mestre praised him for finally playing more aggressively. If we had continued, I would more than likely have hurt the guy, and that would have ended in me being the person in the wrong, and being held up as a bad example. These inconsistencies affected both Mum Mum and I tonight and have resulted in us both feeling very pissed off with the whole process.
Neither of us are going to quit, but I am certainly going to curtail my game until I get clear directions on how I should play the game.